How to be a Good Neighbour, 如何做个好邻居


Being on bad terms with your neighbour can make your life frustrating, day after day. But taking the time to establish good terms with your neighbours has numerous benefits. The community will be friendlier, the neighbourhood safer, and the area a nicer and more comfortable place to live

《孟母三迁》这个故事告诉我们邻居对人们的家庭生活、个人成长具有很大的影响。邻里交往是社会交往中最普通、最重要的交往之一,因此,要正确地处理好邻里关系,与邻居和睦相处,礼貌待人。

俗话说,远亲不如近邻。邻里之间互相关心, 互相帮助,是我们的社会所提倡的新风尚,值得发扬。邻居之间要有礼貌,要互相帮助,要互相体谅. 因此, 希望有个好邻居,首先自己要做个好邻居。

http://news.xinhuanet.com/life/2006-11/17/content_5343312.htm

 

The sign of peace, quiet, clean, safe and complacent living environment

《一个环境优美的新社区, 倘若没有好的邻居是美中不足的》

Beautiful house, beautiful environment is simply inedequate and even meaningless if without friendly , mutual respect and helpful neighbours.

http://www.wikihow.com/Be-a-Good-Neighbour

http://www.videojug.com/film/how-to-be-a-good-neighbour-2

4 responses to “How to be a Good Neighbour, 如何做个好邻居

  1. Kong Kok Meng 江国民 (PP8A RA Chairman)

    邻居间交往禁忌

    每一家都有自己的邻居,每一家又都是别人家的邻居。邻居交往有两大特点:一是天天见,二是生活琐事多。这就决定了邻里之间要常常注意避免发生无原则的矛盾。

    邻居间交往五忌

    1、一忌以邻为壑。有些人心眼小、私心重,在邻里生活中总怕邻居沾了自己的光,反过来自己却总想瞅机会沾别人家的光,甚至明里暗里做那些损害邻居利益的事。这在邻里交往中是最要不得的,其结果只能在邻居中孤立自己。

    2、二忌各扫门前雪。在邻里交往中,持这种态度的人不在少数,以为邻居间避免矛盾的办法就是少相互掺和,自家管自家最好,少数人家甚至发展到老死不相往来。其实,邻里之间自顾自的做法决不是上策,俗话说,远亲还不如近邻呢,谁能保证自己在日常生活中不发生需要别人帮助的事情?到那时候,好邻居的作用可大呢。

    3、三忌在邻居间说长道短,拨弄是非。邻居交往,所谈多是家常琐事,稍不注意,就会扯到邻居的长短是非上来,这是邻里团结的一个很大威胁。当然,如果是为了解决邻里不和,大家谈一谈,共同想办法搞好团结,这是正常的。如果只是要挖苦、嘲讽、攻击别的邻居,有意挑拨邻里关系,这决不是应取的态度。

    4、四忌无端猜疑。有时候,邻里纠纷倒不是有人挑拨产生的,而是纠纷的一方无端猜疑导致的。一家人也免不了有思想上的分歧,何况邻里间要做到完全消除戒备,没有任何疑心,这恐怕也不是现实的。关键在于,是合理猜想还是无端起疑。前者多是理智考虑,后者则多是感情用事,所以无端猜疑最容易产生误会,给邻里关系造成不利影响。

    5、五忌自以为常有理。邻里交往中发生矛盾,应多做自我批评,但有些人总喜欢指责别人家,总觉得自己家正确,胳膊肘子总朝里扭。最明显的要算孩子方面的事了。邻居间孩子闹事,有些家长总是偏袒自己的孩子,不管有理没理都不让人,表面上是护孩子,其实是害了孩子,助长了孩子的蛮横心理,而且恶化了邻里关系。所以,在邻里交往中自恃"常有理"实际上是很不明智的。

  2. Kong Kok Meng 江国民 (PP8A RA Chairman)

    When you bought your linked house, the least you consider probably was your neighbour, but when you moved in, the first person you meet, mind you is your neighbour, whether he is your friend or enemy is very much your own decision or perception. In some cases the Resident Association may need to come in as a mediator provided both the parties in conflict prepare to compromise and sacrify a little. No one can change another person life style and belief to suit yours. If for any reason you bring the matter to chairman for arbitration, please prepare to accept chairman advice or else……….

    The chairman or penghulu does deserve certain level of respect or etiquette from the resident, please mind your langauge and being courteous or benevolent if you want chairman to get into your picture. Even the police will not entertain trivial matter of uneasy neighbourhood unless there is any element of threat, misdemeanor, physical injury, damage or lost of property.

    So why do we make this Sunday and your neighbour a miserable one ……?

    At the end of the day you are the one who will be facing your neighbour everyday, be friend or enemy,like or dislike, being amicabe or confrontation is abosolutely your choice…..

    May I conclude with a famous chinese proverb

    忍一下,风平浪静;
    退一步,海阔天空
    大家住在隔壁,有必要闹到那么僵吗?

    • In short, if you make an enemy of your neighbour, you will have to live with your enemy for the rest of the time you stay in the same house. So, please be considerate to your neighbours and they will assist you if you need assistance from them in the future.

      Same goes to those who are contributing to the maintenance fee, the security guards will come to your aid if you need help in regards to security matters.

  3. This is very true. I have a good neighbor and that does make my life sweeter!

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